I identify as a FemDom, first, and foremost. FemDom is short for Female Dominance in the world of Bondage & Discipline, Dominant & submissive, and Sado/Masochism. (BDSM)
What this means for Me, is that I reject the common societal trope that has been laid out for the “common woman.” I don't like to be soft. I don't always like to keep My mouth shut. And I don't like to "behave." That also doesn't mean that I am a super rebel either, as I do have certain and specific opinions about how people can best function together. I have always been described as an exceptional outlier.
A dominatrix can come from a variety of sexual orientations, and many will take on a variety of partners, including underlings, service providers, submissives, mentees, lovers, etc.
In this day and age, the porn industry has misinterpreted most of what is represented as FemDom. Don’t get Me wrong - I may also be doing this as well in an effort to make sales with My own content, but I firmly believe FemDom is about satisfying your Female Dominants pleasures. The FemDom relationship should theoretically and practically be founded upon pleasing the Female Dominant. Her very real life, everyday needs, her pleasures, her desires, her whims, her caprices and necessity to vent. in opposition, there can be times in media, where what is depicted of the FemDom, may be catering to the subs fetishes and kinks.
I choose to live a FemDom lifestyle. This means you can expect loving, female authority from Me. Sometimes referred to as a Mother or Mommy Domme. That loving female authority demands to first receive respect, devotion, and altruistic service from My partners. FemDom is not built on submissive sexual fantasies. To ask Me to focus on your fantasies is an utter turn off and lack of interest. Whereas alternately, altruistic service turns Me on and inspires Me to play with My pets. A genuine submissive will remind themselves that FemDom is about pleasing the Goddess first.
There is a very specific reason why I feel quite adamant that a realistic submissive will serve My needs first. That is because I know Myself as a person well. Though I may be a sadist, and enjoying causing pain to the partners who willingly accept this, I have several personality traits that work in the favor of others.
I am kind and considerate. I pay attention to the emotional and physical needs of a person.
I am empathetic and sympathetic. I will have to re-teach much of what you think you already know in life. There will be pitfalls along the way. My goal is that we have an unbreakable bond and we lean on each other to get through these moments.
I am respectful. Even if you wish to be treated as a subhuman, the reality is, you are a human first.
I am a teacher and good communicator. I want to ask questions and I want questions asked. I want you to understand. I want you to be able to express yourself as well. I can't know how to help if you don't share what is going on.
I can admit mistakes. When they are warranted of course. When it is appropriate, I am the first one to admit My own faults, accept them, and apologize. This is not a sign of weakness, but rather emotional and spiritually intelligence.
I am open. While many may send "Goddess you're so perfect," and I may emulate that notion during a session, I am still in a human body which can always improve and grow. There is so much in this world that I do not know, and will therefore be a life long learner. I seek out lessons and information to keep Me on a continual path for evolution.
I desire to give you My honesty; and that may ebb and flow. I don't wish to feel like I need to hold things back. I want to feel like I can share what I am feeling without retaliation.
I am confident and when I am not, I will put Myself on the path to figuring out how to be confident.
I am trustworthy. I don't care to put My submissives in harms way and often am your biggest protector.
I am resilient. I withstand the difficulties that come with life and the responsibility of dominating.
I wish to be your guiding light. Your teacher. The person you worship and admire, and therefore the person you wish to do things for.
If you wish to truly serve Me - meaning outside of a pro session - take the time to get to know Me as a person, and learn what makes Me happy as a person. The rest will come with the grace of our interactions.
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